(This post is part of the Friday Night Kick in the Ass series.)
I get it. Life is fucking hard. Nobody ever gave two shits about you and the world treats you just the same.
You’re a good person. You try to help when you can. You always put others first. You say your prayers, live right, and even give that homeless guy with the “aNyThInG heLpS” sign your change when you stop at his corner.
At work you keep your head down and plug away, while that loudmouth jerk-off in the cubicle down the hall has been fast-tracked for management.
In love, you’re generous and thoughtful, but for some reason you always end up getting stepped on. Crushed into the dirt. Just a plaything.
Even though you eat your 5 small low fat meals everyday you’re still overweight and don’t know what to do about it. Food just turns to fat on you, while others eat high cholesterol steak and eggs and still manage to keep trim.
Why you? What the fuck did you ever do to deserve this shit?
It’s just not fair.
Whoa there buddy! Better take a step back.
Life isn’t fair?
Well no shit.
Life ain’t fair. It’s a fact. So what can you do about it?
Life never has been fair. And it never will be fair. It’s probably a good thing . . . just imagine a world in which we all got what we deserved.
So life isn’t fair. Get over it. Because whining ain’t gonna make it any less unfair. It just leads you to surrender what control of your life you do have. How’s that going to work for you?
It’s not. It’s only going to make things worse and lead to . . . you guessed it: more whining.
See the pattern? It’s a nasty cycle and so easy to get trapped into. I’ve been there. Angry at the world and bitter about the state of my life — yet doing jack shit to make it any better.
Yep, I just used to act like a little bitch.
Certainly never got me anywhere.
Just accepting your lot in life is the worst possible thing you can do. Let’s call it what it is: giving up.
I say embrace your struggles. You don’t have to like ‘em, but at least you can determine how they define you. Are they going to make you depressed and fragile? Pessimistic? Weak?
Or are they going to make you stronger? Are they going to teach you valuable lessons you can use to improve yourself?
It just isn’t fair.
No. It isn’t.
And that ain’t gonna change. So why not use it? Make it your goddamn mantra:
“Life ain’t fair. But that doesn’t matter for shit. Because I’m not leaving my life to chance. I’m not putting my fate in anyone’s hands but my own. I am in charge of how I live. I am in charge of who I am. I’ll make my own fucking path.”
Tough times are inevitable. And you may very well experience more than your fair share of them.
Are they going to build your character or tear it down?
It’s up to you.
(Photo by tamakisono at flickr.)