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What is the secret of those successful few?
You know, those bastards that seem to have all the luck. Things just always work out for them. Even when the shit hits the fan — when everything looks about to fall apart — it somehow manages to come out in their favor. They’re better off for it.
What the fuck?
Don’t you hate them for that? Come on, admit it. You know you do.
What do they have that you don’t? And why the hell can’t you ever seem to catch a break?
Success is a Mindset
So here’s the hard truth: success is not something you achieve. It doesn’t come from accomplishing a goal. It’s not about win or lose.
Success is a trait. A characteristic. A part of your personality.
It’s who you are.
Most people get their cause and effect reversed here. They see a successful person and think, “If I could accomplish all those things, I’d be just as successful.”
No. You wouldn’t.
Your thinking is backwards. The reason the successful individual has accomplished so much is precisely because they were successful in the first place. They had the mindset. They had the drive.
Success is a behavior, and like any behavior, it is something that can be changed.
It can be trained.
That’s right. Success can be trained. And you can do it yourself. You don’t need to pay for expensive “How to be Successful” courses online. You don’t need to hire a life coach to show you the way.
You can do this yourself . . . if you choose.
But here’s the rub: it’s hard fucking work. We’re talking about changing your mindset here. Changing your view of the world . . . and how you view yourself.
Do you think a few positive affirmations first thing when you get up in the morning are going to do the trick? Do you really believe that listening to subliminal recordings while you sleep is going to turn you into some fucking ambitious take charge go-getting beast?
Quit deluding yourself.
If you want to be successful you have to earn it. You have to change your mindset long before you’ll ever see even a hint of results for your effort. If you’re serious about turning your life around, you’d better be prepared to do the work.
So here are the qualities you need to start training. You’re going to need each and every one (and more) on your journey towards developing the success-mindset.
1. Take Resposibility – This is absolutely fucking vital! You won’t accomplish shit until you do. I cannot stress this enough. You need to take the blame for everything. I don’t care how far of a stretch it seems.
Lost your job because the economy tanked? Your fault. Should’ve chosen a different job.
Girlfriend dumped you? Your fault. Should’ve treated her better.
Car broke down and you don’t have the money to fix it? Your fault. Should’ve put more maintenance into it.
I don’t mean to be an asshole, but the only way you will ever own your life is to accept full responsibility for all of it. Good, bad, and all the rest.
It will free you.
Because when you accept all the responsibility, you accept all the power. The power to make yourself. The power to act.
The power to run your own damn life.
2. Take Action – So you’ve accepted responsibility and the power to act that comes with it. Good for you. Now use it. Do something already. The power does no good unless it is exercised.
Do you think the successful just sat on their ass while good fortune fell all around them?
No. They went out and made shit happen. They took chance after chance. They didn’t cry about why things never went their way. Instead, they got the ball rolling themselves.
Do what it takes. As long as it takes. No lesser stance will suffice.
Because nothing will happen for you that you aren’t willing to make happen yourself.
3. Pay Your Dues – Now you’re getting somewhere. You’re putting in the hours. You’re making shit happen. You’re going after your dreams.
But the road’s been tough.
You haven’t seen the results you thought you’d see by now. It all seems like a lot of work with little to show for it. You’ve even thought about giving up. Just calling it quits.
Congratulations. You’ve made it to The Test.
This is where most people’s journey ends. The Test always presents itself when you are at your most vulnerable. It seems a cruel twist of fate, but it makes sense. After all, strength defies the need for testing – trials can only come from battling weakness.
When faced with The Test, you have only two options. Pass or fail. Just like any other test.
But this is not some simple quiz to be completed during class. The Test can last for years. Yes, years. Why do you think the Odyssey is such a powerful tale? Are you willing to face ten fucking years of struggle?
If not, then you’d better reassess your goals. Because it just might take that long. Can you tough it out?
When it comes time to pay your dues, you’re going to need strength. You’re going to need persistence. Fortitude. You’re going to need the ability to grit it out. To take your hits and keep on coming.
Fuck the pain.
Fuck the hurt.
You gotta keep on. Move forward. This about challenge. You’re either up for it or you’re not.
If you can stick with it past the point where everyone else throws in the towel, if you can pass The Test, then success is virtually assured.
4. Dive Into Risk – The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is that the former see opportunity wherever they look, while the latter see only hardship.
This world is absofuckinglutely RIPE with opportunity. If you don’t see it that’s because you’ve got your blinders on.
But it’s not enough to see all the possibilities. You need to be willing to make the most of them. It’s scarier than it sounds.
It means taking a chance. Being willing to fall flat on your face. Accepting the consequences that may result.
Most people aren’t willing to put themselves out there. They’re too afraid to leave the safety of their comfortable little bubble.
That’s why they achieve nothing.
If you ever want to make something worthwhile of yourself, you’re going to have to face all that uncertainty and more.
Because when you’re forging your own path, you don’t always know what direction you’re heading . . . and the terrain can be treacherous.
5. Step Up Your Game – Success requires one-upmanship. Sometimes against others, but more often against oneself.
The success-mindset depends on the constant pursuit of growth. It’s not enough to achieve something of note. It’s not enough to just reach a goal.
You need to smash that goal into little fucking shards.
You need to do better. You need to be better.
If you can achieve one goal, then you can achieve another — an even greater one. Successful people never reach the top of the mountain. They understand that there is no top. The road always goes uphill.
That’s just how it is.
It’s not about reaching some ideal level of achievement. It’s not about “having enough.” You might have enough money, and that’s just dandy, but you’d best never have enough of the challenge.
The challenge is what drives the successful. Not the riches or the glory. They know that no matter how far they’ve come, they can always go further.
If you’re looking for success as a means to the easy life, you’re going to be sorely disappointed. Well probably not, since that mindset will never see success anyway. But if you did, you’d realize that life is never easy.
It shouldn’t be.
What would be the point?
6. Share the Success – Nobody achieves anything great all by themselves. When you start your journey towards success you will need help. It’s a given. What you do with that help says everything about you.
Will you be a user? Milking other’s talent for all it’s worth then discarding them when you feel they have nothing left to offer?
Or will you help lift those who lift you? Spreading the prosperity. Repaying kindness with kindness.
Will you hoard the value? Or will you create as much value as you possibly can and share it with the rest of the world.
True success comes not from amassing a fortune and living on your own little island in the tropics. It comes from making a difference. Not just for yourself, but for those around you.
Are you making a difference?
If you were the tide that lifted all boats, then you made a difference. If you leave this world with more opportunity than it had before you, then you made a difference.
If your legacy speaks of love and humanity, no matter the scale, then you were a success.
Make Your Choice
So now you understand. Success is a way of thinking. And you’ll need to come around to this way of thinking before you’ll ever have a chance at reaping its benefits.
Make no mistake about it, this level of change may just be the hardest fucking thing you’ll ever do. Even harder than walking the road is finding it in the first place.
This is how you find it.
You make a choice. You choose to live successfully.
Despite all the work it takes.
Despite the risks.
Despite the results you’ve yet to achieve.
You make the switch. You train yourself. You develop your success-mindset.
It doesn’t matter if you’re scared or hurting. You do it anyway.
It doesn’t matter if you backslide every so often. One burger ain’t gonna kill all the weeks of dieting you’ve put in. One step back isn’t going to erase the countless steps forward you’ve made.
So make your choice and accept all that comes with it.
Responsibiltiy. Power. Opportunity.
Risk. Fear. Uncertainty.
Make your choice.