There are two kinds of people in this world: Winners and Losers. Am I being too harsh? Then how ‘bout “go-getters” and “no-getters”. Or maybe “players” and “played”. “Trumps” or “chumps.” Whatever you want to call ‘em, we’re talking about those who succeed and those who don’t.
Achievers vs. Dreamers
So which are you? Be honest now . . .
Sadly, for much of my adult life I fell squarely into the loser crowd. The ultimate “no-getter.” Nothin’ but pure bred, grade-A, certified prime chump. Napoleon Dynamite had nothing on me.
Those were dark days, my friend. Dark, dark days . . .
But now just water under the bridge. You see, I managed to turn it around. I actually quit being a loser and learned how to be a winner. It was a hard lesson (as they always seem to be), but once learned that lesson sticks with you for life.
And though the lesson may have been difficult for me to learn, the “how-to” was surprisingly simple. Turns out there were only 2 steps I had to follow . . . just 2 little steps to flip my entire life around.
So now I’m gonna let you in on the secret. My simple two-step strategy to turn you from “no-getter” to “go-getter.” Just be warned, simple does not mean easy. It rarely does. So here goes . . .
1. Quit Your Bitching
Seriously. Just knock that shit off. Nobody wants to hear it. I know, I know . . . life’s been rough. You never got a fair shake. The system’s keeping you down and you’re powerless against it. You had big dreams; you were gonna be a champ. A real winner. But the world kept knocking you down again and again.
“I never stood a chance.”
Well cry me a goddamn river.
So life’s been hard. So you’ve been treated unfairly. So you never got your big break.
Guess what? You and everyone else. Very few are born with silver spoon in mouth. Most who achieve something do so despite their circumstances. They work. They hustle.
And they don’t cry ”Whaaaaaaaaa” every time hardship comes knocking.
They take their hits and move on. They persist. They don’t ask for a kiss from mommy to make their owie feel all better.
Because that’s what children do. And losers.
Now let me tell you what all that bitching accomplishes. And remember, I speak from long experience here: bitching keeps you stuck. Bitching keeps you down. That’s right. It’s not the system keeping you down. It’s all that bitching. Nothing else.
You see, it’s not the cold cruel world that holds you back. It’s not fate and circumstance that make you powerless.
It’s you. You and you alone.
And all your bitching. Bitching is the sound of you giving all your power away. Every time life knocks you down you’re faced with a choice. You can stand back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the fight. Or you can sit there and cry about it.
Winners get back in the fight. Losers cry about it.
That’s what bitching really is . . . the sound of a loser crying.
So let me make this perfectly clear: you will never get anywhere in life so long as you continue to bitch about it. You will never accomplish a thing until you quit your whining and get back in the fight.
Which leads to our next step . . .
2. Get. The Fuck. UP!
Get off you ass and fight! Hit back already! You’ve been sittin’ on the mat feeling sorry for yourself for too damn long. Now it’s time to do some damage. Enough of the excuses. Enough of the bitching and whining.
Feelin’ bad about yourself because you’re overweight? Then do something about it.
Feel like you’re being pushed around at home or at work? Then do something about it.
Feel like you’re just a nobody going nowhere in life? Then do something about it.
I’m talking about action here. You need to step up and take action. Your world will never change until you change it yourself. And that change absolutely MUST start with you. There’s no way around it.
This is the hardest step. For those who are used to sittin’ on their ass bitching all day long, this can be damn near impossible. But if you don’t face the harsh truth: that your life is exactly what you made of it . . . and therefore exactly what you deserve, then you can never move forward. You will remain stuck until the day you die.
Think about that for a moment. Everything you hate about your life. Everything you hate about yourself. Always the same. Until the day you die.
Sounds like pure fucking hell, doesn’t it?
It sure did to me, all those years ago. That was my big “Oh Fuck” moment. Imagining another 50 years of the same. Fifty more years of misery.
So I said “Fuck that!”
And that’s exactly what you need to do. Because only losers give in. Only losers quit.
Are you ready to throw in the towel?
Are you gonna curl up in a ball and cry the rest of your life away?
Are you content to a life of scraps?
Good. That means you’re already a winner. Losers settle for less, but winners always reach higher. So keep on reaching . . .
(Photo courtesy of SDWelch1031 @ flickr.)