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I’m keeping this one short and to the point today. People have a tendency to over complicate things. The more difficult the problem we face, the more complicated the solution we come up with.
Because if the solution was simple, we’d have the problem solved already. Right?
But the flaw in this kind of thinking is the belief that simple equates to easy.
While simple solutions may sometimes be easy solutions, that is not always the case. In fact, sometimes the simplest solutions are the hardest.
Take personal development, for example. We’re attracted to the idea of personal growth because we are fundamentally unhappy with certain aspects of our lives. Sometimes with every aspect of our life.
So we look for ways we can improve it. We want solutions to better our lives and make us happier. We want to find fulfillment.
Hmmm . . . that’s one helluva difficult problem. Probably requires a complex answer with many steps, such as learning to love ourselves, thinking positively, setting goals, getting more sleep, daily meditations, becoming organized, downsizing, exercising, eating right, getting our finances in order, etc. etc.
Or maybe . . .
Maybe the answer is simple.
Nah, it can’t be that. It’s too simple. Too easy.
Well yes, it’s simple. But no, it’s not easy. It’s about as far from easy as you can get.
Anybody who believes that changing themselves will be anything but a serious struggle is out of their fucking mind. The truth is that it will likely be the hardest challenge you’ll ever face. We’re talking about changing your very nature. Changing who you are to your core.
Changing an actual human being.
Simple solution. Fucking hard as hell.
So for my next couple articles, I’m going to address some of the difficulties we’ll face on our path to self-improvement. We’re going to examine some of those hard ugly truths up close and personal. We’re going to dive right into the muck and set some realistic expectations.
Too many people have a false notion of what it takes to make meaningful lasting change. We need to dispel those myths. We’re going to get right to the heart of the matter so we know exactly what we’re getting ourselves into.
This ain’t gonna be a trip to the park. It’s not going to be good times. But it sure as hell will be eye opening. Life changing, even . . .